I’ve made no secret of the fact that some of my favourite sex toys are inexpensive glass dildos from Lovehoney. I’ve got loads of them, but only two live on my bedside table. One of them is a curved affair with beads that gradually increase in size until they reach a big, bulbous base. Even after three and a half years I still love it, so when I saw that Lovehoney had echoed the design in steel I couldn’t refuse the chance to review it. So now, I’m bringing you my thoughts on the Lovehoney Desire Steel Dildo.
As part of Lovehoney’s premium line, the Desire Steel Dildo is beautifully presented. All there is to the packaging is a simple outer sleeve that covers an even simpler hard-card presentation box that doubles as a storage solution, but it’s lovely and super giftable.
Before I even clapped eyes on the dildo I was surprised by its weight. I mean, obviously, steel is pretty heavy stuff, but when I opened the box and saw the size of the toy I was even more surprised. Why? Cos it’s so much smaller than I’d anticipated.
From end to end it measures up at 8”, with around 6” of that being insertable. Well, I guess all of it is insertable really, but a gal’s gotta have a handle. Even taking the 2” handle into account, it’s still a decently long dildo. Where I find it small is in its girth.
The curved shaft is made up of five beads, with a sixth bead being the handle. Their approximate circumferences are:
- 5”
- 5”
- 7.5”
- 7.5”
- 4”
- 5” ‘handle’
See. Pretty slender, right? And when it comes to the size of the bulbs, there isn’t much in it from one to the next. This dildo isn’t about size, though. It’s about shape. It’s about the way each bulb dips and curves into the next. The smoothness of the steel, its hardness, it’s rigidity and its weight.
It feels a bit daft to say something so obvious, but the Lovehoney Desire Steel Dildo is completely solid. It won’t bend to your anatomy, it won’t yield to your muscles. When you insert it into your body it will retain its exact shape and your insides will have to shift to accommodate it.
For me, that inflexible nature is one of the reasons I love steel toys. Their insistence that my walls make way for them is crazy hot. And their weight! It can be really taxing on the wrists, especially if I have lengthy play sessions, but that weight moving around inside me makes even a small steel dildo feel twice its size.
When I use the Lovehoney Desire Steel Dildo I don’t need a lot of lube. It’s smoothness and super polished finish means I only need a small amount around the entrance of my vagina to help with initial penetration (which is made even easier by the small, slightly tapered first bulb). Something that’s great about steel is the freedom I have to use any type of lube I have to hand. In the bedroom it’s nearly always water-based. I don’t often play in the bath, but when I do I prefer to use silicone lubes as water-based just washes off immediately.
There are so many ways to use this dildo. G-Spotting is definitely a firm fave for me. Using the small tip gives me precise, hard stimulation. The curve of the shaft prevents too much discomfort around my pubic bone, but I do get a little bit of pain from the bumps if I play too hard. I tend to try to keep my thrusts short, just enough for me feel my opening being massaged by the bulb that rests just inside it.
But my fave way of using it vaginally is to lie on my back with my knees bent then insert it. Its weight (and gravity) keeps it inside me and the curve pushes it against my g-spot. All I have to do then is shake my ass to make the dildo jiggle. It’s not intense stimulation, but it’s constant and hands-free. Too much lube makes it spin around so I keep it light. Once my little squirty splatters start it spins much less, cos there’s something bizarrely drying about whatever it is I ejaculate and the dildo kinda gets jammed. Stimulation becomes much more intense after that.
As I did the glass version, I love the Lovehoney Desire Steel Dildo for anal (the large bulb makes it perfectly safe in my book). If I insert it slowly my opening stretches and shrinks around each bulb and it feels so good I can often come from just a few strokes if I use a bullet on my clit. But if I thrust quickly I get a hard, popping, rippling sensation that makes me weak at the knees. Orgasm arrives a bit slower if I go fast, but when it happens I’m left in a quivering mess.
One last thing to mention is temperature play. Just like glass and ceramic, steel dildos are excellent for experimenting with temperatures. Freezer and boiling water temps are far too dangerous, so think along the lines of hot and/or ice-cold water in bowls. Sitting the dildo in there for a few minutes is enough to get it to temperature and both ends of the scale feel awesome. Personally, I prefer cold for anal as my butt grips the toy tighter, and hot for vaginal play as it feels like it glides better.
As much as I love this dildo, I know it’s not gonna be ideal for everyone, even those who have the same tastes as I do. Its weight will make it difficult to use for people who struggle with their grip or have weak wrists. Limited reach will be made worse by the weight, too. And then there’s the rigidity of the steel. If the idea of using such an unforgiving toy doesn’t sound good to you, look for something a bit more malleable like soft silicone.
But if you like rock solid toys, well-defined bumps and a medium curve, this dildo might be ideal for you. If its price is too steep for you don’t despair. In direct comparison with the Lovehoney Sensual Glass Beaded Dildo, there isn’t much difference other than size. The glass piece is slightly bigger in both length and girth.
To get your hands on the glass click here. For the steel, click the banner below.
