Love Links #19

If y’all could see me now, you’d see a pink-cheeked gal with her shoulders hunched, shaking her head at her own soft cockedness. Why am I a soft cock? Well, after reading a post by the lovely Floss of Floss Does Life, I’ve realised that I’ve allowed my concerns about not being constructive enough in my comments on other bloggers’ work to prevent me from being a giving member of the sex blogging community. I’ve been too airheaded to remember to share awesome stuff on social media, I’ve been stingy with the like button and too socially awkward to join in with conversations. Basically, I’ve been shite and I’m ashamed of that.

I know how important it is for me to have my work acknowledged by others and to have them want to talk to me, and so many folks do give me that…but I don’t give back. They get my attention, sure, and my clicks, but they don’t ever know I’ve been to their sites to marvel over their words or salivate over their images cos I never frigging say anything. I’ll often type up a comment (sometimes lengthy, sometimes not) and then delete it after the thought ‘who do you think you are‘ pops into my head. Imposter syndrome is alive n’ thrivin’ in Scandarella House.

So, I’m striving to teach myself that acknowledgement and support doesn’t need to come in the form of an in-depth analysis of someone’s blog post. I do love receiving insightful comments, sure, but I also love the single word comments, too. I should never have convinced myself that others wouldn’t feel the same.

Anyway, here’s a bunch of stuff that’s captured and held my attention while I’ve been scouring blogs today. Check them out and if you enjoy them as much as I did – and if you can – consider giving that like/share button some love.


Lovehoney Thrusting Happy Rabbit by Mamz
I really love reading about the experiences other reviewers have with toys I’m familiar with. It’s super interesting to read opinions that differ from mine be they good or bad, but I have to admit that I still get a little jolt of validation when I find someone who feels the same way as I do about a toy. And Mamz enjoyed this thrusting bunny as much as I did!

Tantus Zombie Gary by Kitten Boheme
I really wanted me a Zombie Gary dildo because of course I did, but I do believe that ship has sailed for me. I’ve lived vicariously through Kitten Boheme’s awesome review of it, though, and that’s just gonna have to satisfy me.

Halloween Party Pumpkin Vibrating Cock Ring by Cara Sutra
This has to be one of the most adorable cock rings I’ve ever seen. I’m 100% sure that it wouldn’t work for me as a sex toy, but I still want one. And I want the ghost. And the bat, too.

Tantus Champion Dildo by Countess Kassandra
I love the looks of this dildo. It’s big and chunky looking, so is definitely one for my lust list.


Okay, So I Have A Foot Fetish by A Kinky Autistic
Okay, so I don’t have a foot fetish. What I have is a foot aversion. I just don’t heart feet and I never have, they’re not my cup of tea at all. But this post still managed to give me squeezy thighs and now I’m wondering if I could get over my icks and give the Fella a toe job. The answer is probably no, but I sure am considering giving it a try.

Weird Dude Dreams by Rayne Millaray
Ah, the dreaming mind fascinates me. Someone told me once that the most boring thing a person can do is relay their dreams, but I think that’s bullshit. I love hearing about the things folks dream about, and the stranger they find the subject matter the better!


Slut in the Attic by Floss
In this post, Floss writes about one of those scenarios that I know I should baulk at. After reading it, I felt like I should have been left with a sense of unease that made me glad of my warm, safe surroundings. But nope. I was turned on to the max and that was more to do with the darker elements of the situation than the sexual ones.

Slippery When Wet by Mrs Fever
I’m a fan of both Feve and of Jon Bon Jovi. Ah, Jon, with all his hair and his Superman tattoo and his dreamy smile. This piece was over far too quickly but it’s left me with a little Zippo flame glowing in my belly.

Saturday by Hannah Lockhardt
So short but so good! I love the way Hannah writes.

Enjoy, and remember, if you like it, share our shit.

7 thoughts on “Love Links #19

  1. I am a fan of the ‘Like’ button. It’s a head nod, a fist bump, an “I see you,” a “good job,” a thank you, an “Awww…”, a smile, an acknowledgment, a WOW. It’s a way of letting a writer know you’ve heard what they have to say, and it’s an easy, accessible “I was here” tool for almost everyone.

    That said: Quite often I don’t hit it. Because I forget, or because I don’t want people to misunderstand and think I like the fact that they’re struggling, or because I wonder if pressing that little button even matters. (It matters, obviously; I appreciate it when I’m on the receiving end, so why wouldn’t others feel the same?)

    My point (yes, I have one! 😛 ) is: I think we all question the value of our interactions/input sometimes. You’re not alone in that.

    And for the record, I appreciate *any* time you (and all my readers) take to visit my blog, whether you ‘Like’/comment or not. Just knowing that people were there, whether or not you choose to let me know specifically that it was YOU, is meaningful to me. 🙂

    1. After all of the self-flagellation I did in Love Links, I’ve still been forgetting to ‘like’ stuff, lol. When I have remembered, I’ve discovered that it’s quite a rare feature. Loads of the blogs I’ve visited over the weekend don’t have a like button. That made me kinda panicky cos I wanted to give em a wave and let them know I was there. I’m still a weirdo when it comes to commenting. It’s a process, I guess.x

  2. I’m always impressed at the amount of support that the sex blogging community provides to their peers. I think we could all learn something here.

  3. Sometimes I read a post and like it, but feel saying only ‘nice post’ is so full. Then, when I don’t know what else to say, I always click the like button to let the owner know I have read and liked the post.

    Rebel xox

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