Ah, we’re halfway through October and I’m the happiest I’ve been since… well, since last October. My house is full of flashing pumpkins, witchy candles, and the smell of wintery spices, as well as home baking that I shouldn’t but have been indiscriminately shovelling down my neck. My bedside table is piled high with ghost story books, my DVD player has been a conveyor belt of Halloween movies.
But not really scary ones, though. Cos, fun fact, I can’t watch horror movies cos I’m a big ole coward.
Seriously, she who was recently called the goddess of gothic erotica by one of her fave writers (my ego came hard when I read that tweet, lemme tell ya) can’t watch anything too creepy/stabby/psychologically head-fucky without chucking up then sleeping with the lights on for half a year. I like my words to be as black as ink and straight from hell, but I prefer my Halloween movies to come with a double dose of Disney.
I’m on my tod tonight so I’m gonna snuggle with my kitties and watch something old (Death Becomes Her). Then I’m gonna snuggle the Fella’s pillow and read something new (Prince Lestat). Before I do any of that, though, I’m gonna provide y’all with some links to some awesome blogs. I hope that you enjoy them as much as I did. Continue reading “Love Links #20”
If y’all could see me now, you’d see a pink-cheeked gal with her shoulders hunched, shaking her head at her own soft cockedness. Why am I a soft cock? Well, after reading a post by the lovely Floss of Floss Does Life, I’ve realised that I’ve allowed my concerns about not being constructive enough in my comments on other bloggers’ work to prevent me from being a giving member of the sex blogging community. I’ve been too airheaded to remember to share awesome stuff on social media, I’ve been stingy with the like button and too socially awkward to join in with conversations. Basically, I’ve been shite and I’m ashamed of that.
I know how important it is for me to have my work acknowledged by others and to have them want to talk to me, and so many folks do give me that…but I don’t give back. They get my attention, sure, and my clicks, but they don’t ever know I’ve been to their sites to marvel over their words or salivate over their images cos I never frigging say anything. I’ll often type up a comment (sometimes lengthy, sometimes not) and then delete it after the thought ‘who do you think you are‘ pops into my head. Imposter syndrome is alive n’ thrivin’ in Scandarella House.
So, I’m striving to teach myself that acknowledgement and support doesn’t need to come in the form of an in-depth analysis of someone’s blog post. I do love receiving insightful comments, sure, but I also love the single word comments, too. I should never have convinced myself that others wouldn’t feel the same.
Anyway, here’s a bunch of stuff that’s captured and held my attention while I’ve been scouring blogs today. Check them out and if you enjoy them as much as I did – and if you can – consider giving that like/share button some love. Continue reading “Love Links #19”
So much time has elapsed since I started compiling Love Links #18 you’ll find that some of these posts are a couple of months old. I wish I could say I’d spent a lot of that time being a busy wee bee, but I’d be lying. Some of it was spent on the sofa feeling sorry for myself, and only the latter few weeks have seen me emerge from the hole I was in. If you wanna, you can read my whinge about that here. But if you’d rather read some awesome, non-whingy stuff, check out the links below. Each and every one will lead you to marvellous places, I promise you. Continue reading “Love Links #18”
Yay, it’s linky link time! I know, it’s been ages. Something like, two months *gasp*. My fellow bloggers have posted so much awesome stuff (nowt new there, they’re all ace) I could have spent all day adding links to this list. But there’s a plate of bbq and a pina colada with my name on em out in the garden, so I’m heading back out there to lurk in the shade of my apple tree and curse the ever loving fuck out of the sun. Seriously, this weather is starting to feel like attempted murder. As nice as it is to have an actual summery summer for a change, I need the universe to throw a good storm or two at me, cos if we don’t get some rain soon I’ll be bringing you the next link drop from beyond the grave.
On that note, I’m off. Enjoy the posts I’ve picked out for y’all and, erm, *raises sweaty cocktail glass* chin-chin! Continue reading “Love Links #17”
Oh my gawd, I can barely believe that it’s been almost a month since I last did a good old link share. The past 4 weeks have been mostly awesome. I received an ETO award nomination (for Best Erotic Writer) for the second year in a row, so that put a dirty big smile on my face. If you’re an ETO subscriber and haven’t placed your votes for your fave businesses, products, and people yet you’ll need to do it soon, cos the clock’s a’ tickin’.
Also, at the beginning of this week, I turned 38. My birthday pressies range from the cutest unicorn cake to a coffin shaped curio shelf, and in between, there was awesome stuff like a blood red mug in the shape of a dragon’s head, a second-hand faux-book-bookcase for me to paint, and of course, chocs, booze, and pizza aplenty. Basically, all parts of my personality got something to squee over.
I can’t say I’m happy about how quickly I’m racing toward naughty forty, but a lovely conversation with the Fella inspired me to write a positive piece of erotica focused on the nature of sex within relationships that are also getting older. If you wanna, you can read that here, and if you’d like to read a story about a woman sneakily appreciating her ageing lover while he’s in the shower you can check that out here. If you’ve already read ’em, or just don’t fancy em, there’s plenty coming up (all of it erotica this week) to keep you busy 😀 Continue reading “Love Links #16”
It’s the 15th edition of Love Links so I think now is probably a good time to offer a quick reminder as to what this linky lark is actually all about, cos the message seems to have been forgotten. Now, I know some folks will wonder if I’m about to have a dig at someone and who that someone might be. Well, I am. I’m having a dig at the for-profit businesses who have emailed me recently to tell me that they have some interesting posts (they don’t) that my readers will love (you won’t) and if I’d be so kind as to include them in my round-up (I’m not) they’d be ever so grateful. Continue reading “Love Links #15”
It’s Easter Sunday! Happy chocolate scoffing if you eat it, happy egg rolling if you do it, and happy resurrecting if you’re Jesus. I’ve already munched my way through a box of 24 Ferrero Rocher, and I have my eye on the Fella’s Belgian chocolate egg now. I don’t know who’s gonna hate me more when I sneak-eat it; him, my dentist, or my doctor. It’ll probably be me, actually.
As well as Easter, it’s also April Fool’s Day, and I’m mad about it. To me, it’s nothing but an excuse for regular twats to be astoundingly massive twats and I hate the entire concept. There’s something about it that brings out the worst in pretty much anyone pre-disposed to being a cunt. Just having a snoop at some Facebook pages this afternoon gave me an eyeroll migraine when I spied folks saying they’d been subjected to some of the usual suspects: Continue reading “Love Links #14”
It’s been far too long since I last showed the sex blogging community some link love. But I’ve finally taken the ring of roses off my front door and I can look at a computer screen for more than five minutes without feeling like my eyeballs are gonna liquidise, so I’m finally getting back into the swing of things.
I’ve written a bit of smut and a review or two, and I’ve also taken my first turn at doing the Wicked Wednesday round-up. Ugh, so fucking hard, man. The prompt was ‘Sad’ and rather than having my loins bombarded with wank inducing filth like I expected, I was faced instead with some intensely emotional posts. Each one was as good as the one before it. I could easily have done a top ten, but I settled on three excellent pieces by three excellent writers: Continue reading “Love Links #13”
I’m a granny, folks! Well, kinda. Sorta. In a (very) remote way. See, Luna – one of my fur babies – had a baby of her very own this week so technically that makes me a kitty grandma. I had a crack at being a midwife, too. Luna pushed her back paws off my right palm and hid her face in my left while she squeezed out her babe, and I watched the whole thing unfold like a tiny, gross miracle.
Talk about obsessed! I’ve haunted that poor cat all week long, watching and waiting to see if she had any more bundles of worry waiting to join the world. For that reason, I’ve barely even looked at my laptop. Well, other than to google stuff like ‘should a new mum cat be shivering‘ or ‘newborn kitten can’t find a nipple’ and – my fave – ‘dopey cat keeps sitting on her baby‘.
So, this week, I can’t share any links to individual posts I’ve loved, cos I haven’t read much of anything. But what I can share is a bunch of links to some of my favourite blogs. This list isn’t exhaustive by any means. The sex blogging community is huge and filled with so much good stuff. But can’t list everything all in one go, so after you’ve had a click through all the links in my blogroll, check out the following sites. I’m not good at saying why I love what I love (says the gal who writes 2000+ word reviews, lol) but if a blog appears anywhere on Scandarella, know that my love for it is true ❤
Continue reading “Love Links #12”
Oh my good Gordon, I cannot believe I missed Love Links last week. And I’m a shade annoyed with myself for posting this one a day late. So much for that New Year’s resolution, eh? They’re basically all fucked now, lol. But I do have a good reason for being late this week. Well, I have something like eleven reasons, actually. They are:
- Horatio Slice
- Gunner Wilkes
- Snake Vinter
Yep, I had my nose buried in Oleander Plume’s sexy sci-fi romp, Horatio Slice: Guitar Slayer of the Universe, at every opportunity yesterday. A space pirate ship captained by a sack-sucking vampire, a rock star with the horn for a hot nerd, and a cast of androgynous dudes rockin’ lipgloss and hard cocks is enough to keep
anyone’s fingers busy anyone entertained. It’s a damn good read so I’m off to sneak in another chapter while y’all take a look at the links I’ve laid out for you below. Have fun 😀
Continue reading “Love Links #11”