Whenever a gift giving event rolls around, one of the conversations the Fella tries to strike up without me noticing is, which Ella am I buying for this time? See, the different moods of me come with very different tastes. If I’m feeling silly and playful I love to be showered with plushies, animated movies, or merchandise from my favourite kids’ TV shows. When my mood takes on a melancholy tone I get weepy when he gives me fuzzy socks, books, and tasty stuff I can eat while I wear and read them. And then there’s macabre me, who wants skulls, blood and anything that could be considered even slightly satanic. Continue reading “Six Shades of Ella: A Valentine’s Day Gift Guide”
Anal play. If you’re into it, it’s awesome. Slipping something as small as a pinkie finger in there can feel good enough for some, and others prefer anal toys. In general, the bigger the insertable, the more intense a sensation you’re in for. But big isn’t always better for everyone. Luckily, one way to maximise the sexy feels without maxing out your toy size, is to add a bit of vibration to your butt fun. DearLady.us have asked me to write a little bit about that, so here goes!
Now, before anyone puts anything near their butt, they need to ask themselves one question: is it anal safe? The answer will only ever be ‘yes’ if your toy of choice has a flared base. Non-flared toys should never be inserted into the anus, and I’ll tell you why…
The muscles in your butt are designed to hold things in, despite the laws of gravity. They’re tight and strong, only allowing anything out when you say so (unless you’re ill). Their natural ‘pull’ is inward.
When you have an orgasm, your muscles contract. For some it might be a couple of mild pulses that feel nice while they last. But for others, an orgasmic pulse can be so strong it gives you a stitch. As your muscles contract, they lift. Guess what’s gonna happen to a straight vibe or dildo then. Yep, it’s gonna get sucked straight into the anus. From there, it could travel to your bowel, and from there you’re talking possible surgical help to retrieve it.
Nobody wants to have that conversation in A&E, so only toys with flared bases should be considered for use as anal toys. Many plugs have a round base with a slender neck, or they’ll have T-Bar base, and sometimes anchor bases. If you see a toy with a finger ring, make sure that ring is rigid. A soft one will easily squash, and that could result in your toy going AWOL.
Good job there’s so many anal safe products to be found, right?! Here are a few of them: Continue reading “The Bottom Line – Choosing the Best Anal Toys For You”
We have a wardrobe dedicated to bondage equipment, and although it’s contents see a lot of use, I’ve hardly reviewed any of the stuff in it. Reason being, I find this type of review really hard to write, because a good BDSM session results in so many emotions (many of them conflicting) I can’t put into words how I even feel, never mind write a coherent piece on what I think of this flogger or that cane.
There’s also been dozens upon dozens of occasions where I’ve come around from a session and haven’t been able to remember even half of what went on during it, meaning my reviews of products used during those times would be patchy at best.
Continue reading “Beginner’s Bondage: Scandarella’s top picks”
I love physical contact. Whether it be cuddling, kissing, love making, or full on animalistic fucking with copious amounts of slapping, biting, and hair pulling, I love it all, but there are some days when I would readily give it all up in exchange for a long, sensual massage.
Continue reading “Massage: Not just for hands”
What I’ve learned about buying sex toys – so far
I’ve discovered that when it comes to dildos, I’m much more selective than I am with vibrators. Because I use vibes externally (9 times out of 10), I’ll pretty much give anything buzzy a go, but dildos are a different matter entirely, because I put them in me. Continue reading “Material Girl”